Sandcastles: It’s okay to aspire, just do it!

Was it a bad idea to play in the sand even if I am turning 26 this year?

Well, I guess there is no limit in building aspirations. As long as you are doing something to realize them. Some of us had been making a lot of excuses in starting our passion projects. Others are just too scared so they blame others for not helping them. While you are busy looking back on your “what-ifs” in life.

Just drop the drama and move forward.

The more you tell yourself that you are one hell of a failure, the more that your body believes that you cannot fulfill your goals. The more you blame others for your decisions in life, all the more that you will not accept that you are bound to do better things tomorrow.

People around you will help when they see that you are honest in making positive changes in your life. Some will even drop their stuff just to help you carry your cross. But sometimes, you become ungrateful and blame them that they are not helping much that is why you can’t materialize your whatever aspirations. Do not count the things that they are not giving up just because you have your crap all over the place. The truth is, they are willing to help, but you are just too negative to think that they are not.

This is to encourage you that you are your own inspiration. Get up and begin where you left your work. There is no use in rebooting whatever disbelief you have inside you when you keep doing the same mistake over and over again. You have to accept that YOU DO NOT HAVE UNLIMITED ACCESS TO RESET BUTTON in life.

Stop screaming to yourself that you are an old, lonely, wicked man because you might later wake up that you have truly become one. Affirm yourself often when you have done something great.

Big decisions in life are accompanied by huge responsibilities. Own it.

This time, I might make some changes around here on my site and in my career priorities. No more holding on to hopeless devotions and unrealistic relationships. I am done proving myself to ungrateful people.

To a more kind, loving, grateful, beautiful you!

Let me hear your sandcastle thoughts! Leave me a message today. 🙂

Frightened that one day…

One with the waters again today. I am not sure though how the sea constantly calls me to stare and breathe one with it.

Waves come closer and closer til I remember the feeling of being here the last time, last year – on my birthday. I was with him. His face mirrors on the calm clear water. I recognize the face, I recognize his name, I recognize how beautiful he was.

We were beautiful for quite few years. We were.

Finishing the title of this post seems a little daunting. Let thy silent breaths utter those words that seem screaming from the inside.

Frightened that one day… One day…

The Spirit is Willing: yes, you can be better!

You only get one chance at this life, make it worthwhile.

Deciding to become better tomorrow will surely not happen. I just had my alarm at 6AM but snoozed it up until 8AM. Now, I only have few minutes left to prepare for a meeting. Instead of cramming, I sat and write this to you.

Some of you are going through some tough roads in your life, others are still just getting by. There are not many powerful mantras I could teach to make you feel better, but I know that when you believe that you are better today, surely, you can make positive outlook today.

I do not want to hurt people around me anymore. Nor hold on to those who are fine without me. Because at the end of the day, I would demand so much that I could hurt them again. So I just want to disappear into their lives. It will be better off this way.

I am no reverse psychology crap but all I want is not to hurt anyone anymore.

Today, I am better, and so are you!

 

Social Media Grandeur

It’s funny how a human can be successful in relieving his past through all the social media grandeur thing that he does.

Probably, all of us are trying to prove ourselves in this world. Especially to the people in our past. Those people we have hurt in our past. Those people in the past who expected so much from us. Those people whose hearts we broke because of an impulsive MISTAKE.

Years have passed by and yet here you are, still breathing in the shackles of your ex. Trying to prove yourself to her and to her friends that you made a wrong decision in choosing another girl. You wanted to feed their egos that they were right, and you were wrong. And that up to this day, your present was your greatest mistake. A time came when you were so close at jumping over the fence to make it up to them, but you lost it because sht happens.

Someone told me today: “let a man wear a mask and he will reveal his true self.”

There is no one stopping you. Be reserved for whoever you are looking forward to in the future, or let social media broadcast your unending agony of not being able to move on.

In today’s world, things are made possible through social media. You can be a cool kid online, yet live a life of anger and resentment. You can ,at the same time, be a sorrower online, yet live an unapologetic life. And you can be single online, yet hid behind closed doors with someone else.

Whatever social media grandeur you are in now, own it, friend. At the end of the day, are you really being honest and happy?

Ramen Choi and Red Curry House, Tigbauan Iloilo

We like to go on random road trips and find some new place to feed our souls. But today, we ventured in checking out this new thing in Tigbauan they say – Ramen Choi and Red Curry House

Driving all the way from the city, the resto can easily be located. It’s in Brgy. Buyu-an, Tigbauan, Iloilo. Along the highway, near SEAFDEC. You won’t get lost, I promise!

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The place is actually cool. The facilities are clean, and the interiors looks refreshing. The waiters are wearing shirts with “Annyeong Haseyo” print. Was that Korean?

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Anyway, we had Beef Tantanmen and Pork Dumplings. Since we are not into spicy thing really.

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Yes, the serving is generous. The beef tantanmen tastes okay, but not authentic. I had a few authentic Japanese restaurants around Iloilo so I can barely find any authenticity in the soup or noodles on this tantanmen. Even the slices of crab meat are store-bought only. And the noodles are local meke-batchoy. Filipino version of Tantanmen perhaps. The pork dumplings are also okay, but not authentic – nothing special.

I am a little particular with the beverages, always. I don’t really like soda and powdered iced tea or any powdered juices, so the often choice is fresh lemonade or fresh calamansi. I asked if the lemonade in the menu is fresh (real fruit extracts), and the waiter said YES. It was sad though when he served it, oh my. It was powdered lemonade with two slices of lemon! I got sad of course, but maybe because we got our expectations really high since we drove a long way for this.

How to get there Rose?

Public transportation:

  • Just take any of the following jeepneys: Guimbal, San Joaquin, Miag-ao.
  • Tell the konduktor to drop you off in Brgy. Buyu-an, Ramen Choi.

What should I order?

  • One bowl of noodle soup is around 120-180.
  • Hmmm, it is hard to recommend actually, but I guess you should go for some Ramen? Since it was supposedly a Japanese Restaurant.

It was a good try Ramen Choi! Now, let’s drive back to the city!

On life’s purpose: Why am I anxious in my mid-20’s?

Dear Ladies,

I am back after a short rest from blogging and I know that a lot has happened to you as well from all the holidays and the kick-off to this new year. You know, it is already February and before we know it, we might be surprised that we are preparing for Christmas again this year.

We live in today’s super fast world. Where every information is just a Google away, all the news about our friends abroad are readily available in our news feed, probably all that we need is just one-buy-click away, and our days seem so short lately.

Almost three out of five ladies that I have talked with over the past week have told me that life has been this cycle of waking up, eating, working, paying bills, and sleeping, and what not. It is almost impossible to live a life without a job yet live so comfortably. Everything has its price – and comfort seems to cost a hell lot than what we make out of our office jobs!

Why do we keep running anyway?

Perhaps, I am not just the busiest public servant in this country, but I am trying hard to keep a balanced life when it comes to contributing to community, keeping a harmonious relationship with family and friends, hacking financial freedom, pursuing my passion project, and of course, preparing to meet my future spouse. It is a dilemma lately, and sometimes it feels absurd to be all anxious about all of the things that the future holds. Especially that I am turning 26 this year. I feel a little old for some things in life. Probably, most of the young adults in their mid-20’s could relate to my sentiments. I want you to know that you are not alone.

The good news though is, it is not really too late for us to live a more intentional life even at 26!

 

Norms. Stop keeping up with the pace of what the society thinks you should do in every situation. The more you allow yourself to go with the flow, and against your will, the more you will lose yourself along the way. We are called “weirdos” when we try not to blend in with the trend, but the people whose self-worth is based on what others think are lost.

When you decided to let go of a long-term girlfriend for 8 years and decided to pursue another woman who reciprocates your love, people will really say something about you – that you are one hell of a liar or unfaithful. Screw it. The decision you make is all up to you. The repercussions are on you, not on them. People say you should stick and end up with the person whom you had been together with for long years, but do the long years matter when you know that it’s all falling apart?

Money. This is important, but it doesn’t have to define how you should live your life or your happiness. Sure, there is happiness in being able to travel the world with lots of money (it’s damn true), but if the painter gives you a little paintbrush for your artwork while the other student got a bigger paintbrush, does it necessarily mean that you are disadvantaged?

You have loans to be paid, but you want to explore and travel the world. Live the life that those famous bloggers have, get paid by eating at high-end restaurants or sleeping at their hotels, get more followers and be famous! Well, I have nothing against bloggers, but the point here is, whatever situation you are in at right now, accept it. And make the most out of it. Earn a decent money by getting a decent job. Save for your emergency fund. Gradually earn something extra for your passion project and start it while you have the energy to do so.

Past. The first week of January 2018, I wandered in Guimaras for some quiet-time, me-time. I found myself being adopted by a couple who are both journalists and artists for few days. I didn’t really know them, but they welcomed me and fed me with the most delicious vegetarian food in their home (not bad for a pescatarian like me). They knew though that I am an elected official and had been walking a path where people expect me to excel.

Days slowed down and the chirping of the birds woke me up in the morning. The quiet treks I took up the peak of the hill to witness sunsets were more than enough to battle with all the thoughts I had. The anonymity that I carry with me in that place was a relief. No one knows me, except the beautiful couple.

I thought I could leave all my hurtful pasts in that place. Leave it all there, all the regrets, mistakes, and stupid decisions so I could go on with my life luggage-free. I was wrong. My past is part of me. I can’t possibly forget all the pain at once, the people who judged me, and the exes who made me feel that I am a mistake and I am not enough. But I can forgive them and forgive myself for not being perfect at anything.

 

Well, now, I am single. Yeah, it is a little daunting sometimes being single at 25, but I had been too anxious about the thought of living alone for some time already. I can’t keep being in a relationship that I am not really ready for. It is a matter of choice.

Yes, we are in our mid-20’s  now and it is a great opportunity for us to find where our heart is on fire and contribute to the community.